In many families, the time for children to sleep separately is usually before the child starts elementary school.It is also beneficial for nurturing children's independence, helping children understand that they have grown and can sleep alone.
However, not every family is the same.There are parents because they wrap their children, because of the circumstances ... so the older children still sleep with their parents in the same bed.This is sometimes the cause of many unforeseen parents.
After his wife died, Mr. Truong (China) did not choose to remarrse because he was worried that his only daughter was not happy.When his wife died, the daughter was only 4 years old.
From the age of 4, Mr. Truong has always slept with his children to comfort and create a sense of security for the child.(Artwork)
Because his daughter had a lack of motherhood since childhood, Mr. Truong always loved her twice as much.Mr. Truong's daughter is also very docile and obedient.
However, the young girl was very shy and did not dare to sleep alone.Therefore, he always sleeps with his children to comfort, and at the same time create a sense of safety for the child.
Just like that, time passed by little, the daughter is 12 years old but still sleeping in the same bed with her father, Mr. Truong also thought about the difference between men and women, even though it was father and a girl.Daughter.But because girls are always afraid of sleeping alone, the father kept on the father.
But one day, the unexpected happened and Mr. Truong had to implement the plan to separate the bed earlier than expected.
It turned out that at midnight, Mr. Truong woke up to go to the toilet but discovered that his daughter was not there, then he saw his daughter in the bathroom, washing a bloody underwear.When she saw her father, she was ashamed to say:Dad, I don't know why, I have bleeding on my pants?
At this time, Mr. Truong realized that his daughter had entered puberty earlier than he thought, because he was a man, so he never talked about this topic with his daughter.
Mr. Truong realized that his daughter had entered puberty and came sooner than he thought.(Artwork)
The father is also worried, not knowing whether his daughter's early puberty is related to whether the child sleeps in the same bed, but compresses the question, he reassures his daughter:
- This is normal, meaning that I have entered puberty, so today our father and son will sleep separately.Puberty quite a lot of complicated changes so I hope you will protect yourself in the future.
Although his daughter did not understand what her father said, Mr. Truong intended to tell him as much as possible about this knowledge in the future to raise the awareness of protecting himself.
What problems do children sleep in bed with parents?
Some parents believe that, before the age of 6, parents should let their children sleep their own room.Because if you sleep with parents, children tend to stay up late, they can not forge the ability to sleep by themselves and wait for parents to force to go to sleep.Besides, children sleep with their parents when growing up can lead to the following consequences:
1. Children are too dependent on parents
The child is afraid of the darkness and is less courageous, so he does not dare to sleep alone at night.If parents think that they can solve this problem as long as they sleep with their children, they are wrong.
Because of this, not only does it not solve the timid, fear of the darkness of the child, but also makes children form the habit of relying on their parents.If it lasts long, when it is difficult, the child will only escape or "yield" to the settlement to others.This will cause many obstacles to the habit and the child's independent personality development.
Children sleep with parents when grown can lead to consequences.(Artwork)
2. Parents have an impact on the perception of the child's gender
When children entered the elementary school, children understood the difference between men and women, like a magnet, the same sex people push each other and the opposite sex to attract each other.
If the father and the daughter contact the body for a long time, they will not know how to keep the distance from her son, even too intimate with her son.
So find out the reason why children are afraid of sleeping alone, and children seek to fix.In general, when children are about 6 years old, children can gradually adapt to sleeping alone, of course this age is not absolute, parents can be flexible depending on the circumstances and personality of their children.